"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did,

but people will never forget how you made them feel."

Maya Angelou

Creating Compassionate Kids: Essential Conversations to Have With Young Children

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Creating Compassionate Kids goes beyond educating parents. All those who interact with kids of any age will find it a useful tool to consult. . . A must-read for all who strive to raise compassionate children today.”

If you had to choose one word to describe the world you want children to grow up in, what would it be?

Safe? Understanding? Resilient? Compassionate?

In “Creating Compassionate Kids,” Shauna Tominey guides parents and caregivers through how to have conversations with young children about a range of topics-from what makes us who we are (e.g., race, gender) to tackling challenges (e.g., peer pressure, divorce, stress) to showing compassion (e.g., making friends, recognizing privilege, being a helper). Dr. Tominey offers research-based strategies, storybook recommendations and discussion questions, family activities, and practical advice to teach self-esteem, resilience, and empathy: the building blocks for a more compassionate world.

About Shauna


Shauna Tominey, Ph.D, is an Assistant Professor of Practice and Parenting Education Specialist at Oregon State University. In her current role, she serves as the Principal Investigator for the Oregon Parenting Education Collaborative, an initiative to provide high-quality parenting education to families. Previously, Shauna served as the Director of Early Childhood Programming and Teacher Education at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence.  

As a former early childhood teacher and family service professional, Shauna blends practical experience with research to develop and test programs aimed at promoting social-emotional skills for children and adults. She is a co-developer of "Red Light, Purple Light," a preschool self-regulation intervention and "RULER for Early Childhood," an emotional intelligence program for young children, parents, and educators. 

Shauna serves as a speaker for local and national audiences on social-emotional skills (e.g., emotional intelligence, self-regulation, compassion). Over the past five years, she has conducted more than 100 workshops for educators and families and has been an invited speaker for numerous conferences, including the Growing Great Communities Conference (West Hartford, CT), the Young Child Expo (NYC), the Washington Association for the Education of Young Children Conference (Lynnwood, WA), the Kansas Division of Early Childhood Conference (Wichita, KS), the Oregon Parenting Educators Conference (Corvallis, OR), the Annual Birth to Three Institute (Washington, D.C.), and others.

Shauna is the author of the book, “Creating Compassionate Kids: Essential Conversations to Have with Young Children.” She also co-authored “Stop, Think, Act: Integrating Self-Regulation in the Early Childhood Classroom” with Megan McClelland and “45 Strategies that Support Young Dual Language Learners" with Elisabeth C. O'Bryon. 


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